You Are A Great Mother (but Also Many Other Things)

One of the most important things about being a mother is never forgetting yourself.
Of the woman you were.
Of which you are.
And the one you want to be.

One of the fundamental things when it comes to being a mother is knowing how to ask for help.
When you can’t take it anymore
Because being able no more does not make you a bad mother.
It makes you human.

Because if you swallow it all, if you cancel your desires, if you absolutely sacrifice your days and nights, if you remain empty, if you evaporate with the last drops of water in a bowl in the sun, then you will have lost yourself.
Because something has to be left of you.
Of the girl who danced in front of the mirror.

From which he collected an imaginary prize and raised the bottle of shampoo.
The one who liked to stay up reading until dawn.

One of the most important things about being a mother is making your sons and daughters understand that you are not their slave.
That your only function in the world is not to be with them.
That you are afraid and things hurt.
That you keep dreaming

That you are imperfect, like everyone else, but you try.
That you need your time for yourself, your space for yourself.
That your loves are yours.

And even if you are a mother.
You are also free.
You also have to be many more things.

Because you can’t spend your life caring.
Taking care of your brothers and sisters when they were little.
Of your sons and daughters.
Of your boyfriend.
From your father and mother when they are older.

You cannot always be worried about others.
Who cares about you?
Who takes care of you, girl?
One of the most important things about being a mother is being able to keep love for yourself.
It is growing up with motherhood.

It is claiming your place here.
A place you will not return to.
And that belongs to you.
How the waves belong.
Sea.